Lets talk about limits shall we?
It seems I come across many males who are not sure about limits, or without thought, blindly say, “I have no limits”’
First lets define a limit.
Limit- The point, edge, or line beyond which something cannot or may not proceed. A confining or restricting object, agent, or influence. The greatest or least amount, number, or extent allowed or possible.
Both dominants and submissives can set limits. I have My own limits for My professional sessions, and I will relay them, as you the sub/kinkster should too.
If you are going to see a Dominatrix, think about what will not work for you. Normally there is a safe word in place to stop a scene, but if clarity is upfront, that can be avoided.
If you tell Me you do not like pain, being the sadist that I am, I will hit you in other ways, normally emotionally.
So if you are delicate, and do not like any form of humiliation, you had better state that too before hand. Otherwise its probably going to be used on you. Think ALL the possibilities out.
Here is a list to help you understand limits a little better
Soft Limit- A soft limit is something that a person places strict conditions on, but for which they may still give informed consent. An action could be prohibited except under specific circumstances. It requires a cautious approach, and while somewhat appealing, still generates an uncomfortable amount of apprehension.
Hard Limit- The line that should NEVER be crossed. Violating a hard limit is often considered just cause for ending a scene. No is no, PERIOD. Consent can be given and taken away AT ANY TIME, always.
No Limit- Just as the name implies, GAME ON, NO HOLDS BARRED play. Some partners choose not to set limits. This is commonly seen in total power exchange dynamics, and edge play.
Whether or not this type of arrangement is for you, remember, “safe, sane and consensual” is for the players to decide. Despite how some people feel BDSM and the acts are not safe or sane. Some people are so damn judgy!
Now that I have covered the limits, think about them before you seek out a Domme. Have your list ready, concerns stated, and then communicate them thoroughly.
Soooo who has some soft limits, I can push? [grins]