Some subs love humiliation, some do not. This is about one who does not like it, but its happening anyway.
Yesterday I had a little chat with one of my subs who has a problem with taking responsibility for his actions.
He has served in real life, but does not live near me, so we have to do the distance thing in between.
When he screws up, he always trying to explain himself. There is always a reason as to why he failed and it is never just because he failed.
He knows I despise excuses, yet he will inevitably say something like, well it was because of this and so on. Even though I have said DON’T DO IT!
Having recently not finished a task I have requested, and also having an “accidental orgasm”, which he wanted me to know it was not good, but it still happened, he then proceeded to try another lil trick.
Now this trick he tried before, so I am amazed that he tried it yet again.
Knowing he has recently messed up, and is lagging in his chore, which I aided him in getting done since he used the line, ive not found what I need to do it, comment.
I gave him a link on how to do what needs to be done which took me less than a minute to do, which means the effort was not really there, he then proceeds to type this little gem.
“I have been feeling the need to ask for a release but realize with you not feeling well & me not starting an apron …it is far from “a good time to ask”. Hence I am not…. Just can’t believe how distracted or desperate one gets.”
Now do you see what he did there?
He tried to tell me he wanted to ask without asking, hoping to play on my empathy.
If he knew it was not a good time, and was not only thinking of himself he never would have even typed what he want to ask, even though he was asking indirectly.
He then typed this,
“It’s at this stage before I would jump in & try to explain….only to get further horribly muddled…and you even further upset.”
He still wanted me to know he had an explanation, but will not give it to avoid upsetting me. But he still put it out there that there was an explanation. Again not owning his screw up.
Pay attention and learn from this. Check your fucking ego and selfishness.
OWN your screw ups, and DO NOT try and manipulate me to get what you want.
Yes I am a nice woman, but trying to play that for your gain will fucking backfire, and HARD. This may be how you have lived and done with others in your life, but not me. Just NOPE!
Don’t forget I am not the new Domme on the block, and I can see through your bull shit faster than most.
My purple colored glasses are quite amazing, I can see so many things with them!
Now I will not say his name, but he knows who he is, and if this hurts your feelings, GOOD, it was meant to.
Take note of what not to do, which is don’t try to play your Domme, because if you do, you will get played back, twice as hard just because I CAN.
Now his edging was revoked, and no release will be allowed. Maybe the apron will be done a lot sooner now, and maybe a few can learn from his mistakes!
Shame on you lil man, and do remember you will be back here soon, and I know how you hate pain!! [Sweevil Grin]
Mistress, I thought it appropriate to post that it was me. That I take ownership & appoligize to you. I will work harder at trying to be a better sub.