I had a phone call the other day, and the client posed a question to Me about his wife whom had cuckolded him.
He was confused because his wife was so Dominant with him, does not have sex with him, puts him in chastity, never gives when it comes to him.
Recently, she had brought home a new lover, and he was tied to the chair and forced to watch them have sex.
He then proceeded to tell me that she had sex with him, did the positions the lover wanted to do, and even was on her knees sucking his cock in front of him.
He wanted to know why she was “suddenly submissive” with this guy.
I was amused, and asked him what she did that was submissive?
He said, she was sucking his cock, and fucking the way he wanted to.
I gave him some knowledge to ponder, and I decided to pass it on to you.
A Dominant Female, does what she wants, when she wants, and how she wants. PERIOD.
Sucking cock or having sex is not always about top or bottom. If She chooses to do these things, its still her scene.
She would know the mind fuck you might have being the sub cuckolded husband.
She would know she could get lost in that moment, while having her cake and eating it to so to speak. HER PLEASURE!
A Dominant definition is,
adjective
1.
ruling, governing, or controlling; having or exerting authorityor
influence:
dominant in the chain of command.
2.
occupying or being in a commanding or elevated position.
3.
predominant; main; major; chief:
4.
Genetics. of or relating to a dominant.
If you are a true Femdom, you make the choices for you. Not to please someone elses stereotype of what a Dominant female should be.
It seems the stereotyped Domme thing is still very prevalent. From guys saying what is Domme, to other Femdoms calling out another for their choice of actions.
If one Domme wants to be a naked Domme, more power to her. If another does handjob torture in her sessions, go her!
What I would do as a Femdom, and what another might do could be completely different, but guess what? They are both the right way!
Its simple really, we follow our own drums, and that is the beauty of it all.
A good Domme, knows the ebb and flow of certain situations, when to be assertive, when to be passive, how to work with a situation to make it her own.
We may not be able to control everything, but we can command and navigate so it seems that we do!
In short, you probably should drop the stereotype in your mind of what your Domme should be. She will be what she wants to be NOT what you think she should be.
Also to the Ladies, lift your sisters up, not chop them down for not being just like you.
We can not presume that our ways are the only way, and if another female is not Domme in the way you are, that she is not really Domme at all.
That honestly just shows insecurity on your part, for calling someone out for behaviors that have no rule book.
We, the Dominant Females, make our own rule books, and none of them should ever be the same.
Remember we are leaders, NOT followers.
Besides if we are all the same, how fun would that be?
Nope, that is not for Me, I like to ALWAYS keep you guessing!
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