Reality~
Submission is not a sign of weakness, very much the opposite. It takes great character to submit to someone. To choose to serve someone, to put anothers well being and wants above yourself takes dedication, and yes at times sacrifice.
Communication is KEY, as in you must voice yourself. Being a submissive does not mean a doormat. However, during playtime, or scene, your Dom/Domme might take you down that rabbit hole, especially if you need to be checked!
Honesty is also essential, if mutual satisfaction is to occur. If you have a limit, express it. Yes, your Dom/Domme might push your limits, but both of your bottom lines are important.
You probably should absolutely have Commonality of interests outside the kink, if kink is even involved.
You can have a Dom/Domme sub relationship with out kink. They do occur, just the norm seems to have play of some kind, from kink to BDSM acts.
Lets face it, in reality you are not playing it up 24/7 so interests have to be matched. From foods to music, movies and so on.
Remember, yes the service is to the Top, however it is the Tops responsibility to keep the bottom/sub safe. It is caring and nurturing from both parties.
Fantasy~
Many that want to play, are not submissive, they just are kinky and dirty. They will say they are sub to serve and get their kink on.
They might even say sub just to absolve themselves from feeling like a total pervert, with the caveat that their Dom/Domme really wants it so they will do it. Even though you have shared with them what you seek and want and like.
The spectrum of fantasy can be full blown, raging bitch Domme or asshole Dom, to the meanest, greediest sadist person ever. Sensual tease and denial, to erotic humiliation. Lets not forget sissy time!
No matter what it is, do use common sense. Use some tips from reality to get the most of your fantasy experience. State the limits, be honest about what you can really handle, not what your fantasy mind whats you to handle. USE SAFE-WORDS!!!!
Make sure again to communicate so that your Dom/Domme can create the best theatrical fantastical experience, so it leaves a good taste in your mouth, not a bitter, scared event you will not want again.
Everyone has fantasies, hell in my fantasy land, I have a stable of countless subs and slaves. I do nothing ever but be pampered and play. I have the best dungeon, with the best toys, the best gear and wardrobe, and life is all unicorns and rainbows.
Ahh but back to reality…….
Play safe boys and girls!!
Mistress V, To arrange a session do you prefer a call through Nightflirt directly or an email first to discuss things?
Both are ok, but it also depends on the type of session you are seeking. An introductory phone call is always a sure bet to get My attention.