I do enjoy, making a sub pay for his actions, it is part of my sweevil, or sadistic tendencies. But this post is not about me telling you how I made a poor sub pay for an indiscretion.
Actually, it is about you men paying to get your kink on. It seems that many have issues with this subject, that you will not, or should not have to pay for it. You are above it, that it should just be given to you, that you deserve it. The other favorite that I hear is “i am not into financial domination”.
Being a Professional Dominatrix/ performer for many years ( minus a break) I was always amused by the offense that some men take on this.
Here is another perspective for you to chew on, and perhaps an eye opening view for you.
Many of you guys are married, and have a wife that does not indulge in your fantasies, hell, many wives do not even know you have the tendencies.
Therefore you aren’t fully committed to a Domme, you can not be. Yet you want a Domme to spend time and indulge you, and on your schedule. At this point It is your therapy, your release.
People pay for all kinds of therapy, and this one should be no different. You should find a Domme whom has skills in areas you enjoy, and build from there.
You want her to spend her precious time on you, and do remember there are 100 other men wanting that time to. The sub to Domme ratio is very tilted in this area.
Why would you not want to gift her for taking time, and energy to help you indulge in your games?
Time is a gift, learning about a sub/slave/kinkster, building a scene for you, is a gift. Especially when no one else will or can.
Safety is important, and I have heard many horror stories of guys whom get hurt from unsafe solo play, or an inexperienced lady looking to make a fast buck.
Also just keep in mind and remember there are rude stupid people in any profession, the sex industry is no exception. But there are good people too.
I do understand some want the wife and whole picture, but if that has not happened, guess you need to decide how important your “sexual healing” is to you.
How sane you can stay until your picture perfect Fem Domme shows her face?
One last thing I want to briefly touch on is , the whole financial domination thing. ANY relationship you are in, vanilla or otherwise, money is transacted.
Be it through dinner, gifts etc. To say you want to be a sub but not financially, is silly. You will always be paying in some way, normally it is indirect, but it still happens.
Just food for your cranium!
